Confused?

[someguy83]

I'm confused. I've never had a girlfriend? do you think i might be gay or bi?
Well i did not date in high school i was very shy and had social anxiety and did not have many friends. I went to college and dated a few girls but did not hit it off. I finished college and did not date for a bit and made Friends and stuff. I am not shy any more and feel good about my self.

I did date this girl that I was friends with for 6 mouths. She broke up with her bf and we ran into each other and started hang out. The out of the blue she called it off and soon after she had a new bf.That was my only sexual experience and to top it off she just kinda laid there for the most part. There was no passion and i did not even reach climax , but said she did reach climax.

Well now i am 28 and have kinda just lost my mojo with woman. I find woman attractive but finding a gf is some thing i am not interested in or just i don't know what is going on with me. I do work full time and going back to college to get a better job and a job i like to do.

I am almost 30 and feel like I'm a complete fuckup and I've ****** up a lot of things in my life. I'm constantly tortured by a sense of failure.I feel like I've failed in terms of what my potential is. It's this constant feeling of not having achieved enough.

I never done any thing with a guy b4 but I thought about it.I kinda wounder what it will be like to have sex with a guy. I watch gay porn hear and there along with straight porn. The thought of letting someone take control is a turn on for me. Being a bottom would be a turn on for me . Also i have got a dildo and used it a few times.

Woman will seem interested but i just kinda push them away or act like i am not interested. When i am but some thing stoping me even if i am interested.

I just do not know what going on with me. I do not think I am gay but I do not know.*

I do jerk off a lot when I am need to relax and that might have some thing to do with it.*This happens all most every day and it helps me relax but I am going to be replacing that with tequila lol.

Maybe I could try dating a guy and see if any thing happens but I do not know.*If I did I would not know we're to look or say.

Also when I am on a date with a woman a lot of the time I feel like Noting ever clicks and I been on a lot of dates so I do not know if it me or I just have not found the one.

And advice or help please.

[Jobelorocks]

Well there is a possibility that you are gay, bi, or straight. Only you can decide what you are and are not, no one else can tell you. . Bisexual is someone who is attracted to both males and females in either sexual and/or romantic ways. Now this can be at different levels of attraction and they can change over time. I know that I go through "stages" and sometimes I am more attracted to males and sometimes more to females. That is very natural for many bisexuals.

Just because your relationships with women haven't worked out so far, it does not mean that you are gay necessarily. You may not have found a good fit yet. If you are interested in being with a guy, you should try it. I would try to think through what kind of attraction you have to guys though, because this will help you decide whether you want it to be strictly sexual or something romantic.

The biggest thing that will lead to your sexual fulfillment though, I have found is accepting yourself and your sexual attractions. You may be gay, bi, or straight. Only you can know for sure. Whatever you are, figure out what you want in the sexual realm and go for it.

[Gearbox]

I am almost 30
Pretty much sums it up there.:rolleyes:
Your not the first 29 3/4yo to look back and think "WTF have I been doing all these years?". Even if you were a top physician etc, you'd have some regrets, in the 'Am I being all I can be?' department.

Never mind being a 'fuckup'! Fucking up is ok! It's part of the course and there's no way round it sometimes.
Now is a great time for discovering what you really want, and how to get that AND be happy with it.
No way to find that out except for a little exploring though, so go and explore those m-m desires etc.
Your self sabotaging on the dating scene is an indication that you NEED to stay single to explore that IMO.

Wait till you get to 40! It's GREAT! You'll just won't give a shit for the bolox any more!:bigrin:

[someguy83]

Like I said I never dated a gay guy or bi guy . I might give it a try and see if There is more of an connection .

[*pan*]

well... i don't know, only you know if you like men or woman or both, why limit your self with a label of gay straight or bisexual, your choices and desires will usualy decide on how people will see you. maybe your just not dating the right girls. maybe it's the place your finding them. first impressions can make a big difference. if she just layed there either you were'nt stimulating her in the way she wanted or maybe she was just one of them that are hard to please, maby she just was'nt really interested in you and thinking about the other guy and just needed some sex. some people are easy to please some are not. some people demand perfection and i try to stay away from them lol. maby you could try an older woman who is not as demanding and has expirence just keep her as a friend and ask her to help. i really don't know what to say here only trying to give some ideas. i dont know what you look like or what you have going for you, don't know your personality or habits. people tend to look at these things. are you funny and fun to be around or serious all the time. i love to figure things out but i have no information to work with here, just your post. if it were me i would look at the other guys she been with as to what they have that i don't if it were me.
i do know there are a lot of smarter people then i am in here who give really good advice so just hang in there and they will eventualy come by and possibly help.