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[rj2987]

Im a bi curious 20 yr old man. I have been thinking about experimenting with a guy in order to decide if it is something I enjoy and at that point would decide im bi before I tell any girls or anyone else. I was recently chatting with a 58 yr old man who lives near me and has offered to meet me and we may end up experimenting. I was wondering what people's opinions are as to wether or not i should meet this person. I am asking this not because of saftey or diease concerns but im debating wether I shold have my first guy experiment with someone so much older. Anybody who has any advice on this I would love to hear from.

Thanks,

RJ

[Bluebiyou]

Follow your feelings.
The older guy is probably (not necessarily) wiser and bringing fewer issues to the table.
You might feel more comfortable with a young guy where you both are searching and exploring.
If you want to do it, just do it. But, do it safely!! :tongue:

[jeancarleo]

it all depends on tastes. I'm 29 and had my first sexual experience with a guy my age when I was 21. I have been with younger and older men but the oldest i've been with was 41 and it was cool.

Maybe you gotta picture it if you'll wanna be with a lady that age sorta to make u feel more comfortable that's how I would picture it but hey u can just follow your insticts and tell us about your experience and of course be safe ;)

[the mage]

Im a bi curious 20 yr old man. I have been thinking about experimenting with a guy in order to decide if it is something I enjoy and at that point would decide im bi before I tell any girls or anyone else. I was recently chatting with a 58 yr old man who lives near me and has offered to meet me and we may end up experimenting. I was wondering what people's opinions are as to wether or not i should meet this person. I am asking this not because of saftey or diease concerns but im debating wether I shold have my first guy experiment with someone so much older. Anybody who has any advice on this I would love to hear from.

Thanks,

RJ

............................be careful. Do not go to a stranger without telling someone you trust that you are going there.
Be sure his body is what you like as well as his mind, its your first time, don't let him make you just a notch on his bedpost.

[jem_is_bi]

Age is a factor that greatly influences who we are and how we live life both in the near and long term. So, his long-term outlook for life is much different and much shorter than your long-term outlook. Friendship is great, fun is fine, but the difference in age will mean his future and yours will be distinctly different.
If you are only interested in shared sexual enjoyment without a long-term relationship or significant emotional involvement and he is willing and you are willing then age is not an issue. Otherwise, it will be an issue sooner or later that may be a problem for you and him. However, a difference in age may not be any worse than any of the other problems that arise in a relationship. So, ultimately, it depends on you and who is your partner.

For me personally, I am 60 yrs old and doubt that a relationship with a 20 yr old male or female would work out. While, I like the 60-year-old man I am now and the 20 yr old man I use to be; 40 yrs of experiencing life did require significant change. But, this is me not him.

JEM

[Daviecurious]

During his off hours from founding the country, inventing bifocals, establishing the post office, ect ect, Ben Franklin was well known for his attraction to women. He has written of his preference for older women, as their experience, expectations, and ability to be discreet made for a better experience for him.

If this older person is someone you are comfortable with and attracted to, I say 'why not'. He is (most likely) going to bring a measured, comfortable approach to your contact. He is more likely to be secure in who he is, what he expects (from both of you), and how to get there. And he is more likely to focus on the journey, rather than the destination.

In short, trust your feelings. Good luck to you, and be safe.

[jedinudist]

keep in mind - every person you meet is a crapshoot. There are bad old people and bad young people. There are good old people and good young people.

There are advantages to having your first time with someone else who is also experiencing their first time, just like there are advantages to having your first time with someone who is experienced.

Weigh your options, think about how this could/will affect you years from now when you look back on it and then really, really, REALLY do your homework on the person you are considering doing this with.

I honestly believe you should know the person for some time before sex enters into the picture. If anyone, regardless of their age keeps pushing for sex -I'd advise you to walk away and not look back!

You only get ONE first time - don't waste it on someone who just wants to get off. Your talking about your virginity - you should give that to someone who really deserves it because they value you as a person and care about you. Not just because you have the sexual equipment they prefer to use to get off with.

Either way - Good Luck, and please be safe!