Finding my self as a bi-sexual

[hornysperm]

Why is it as we get older we are finding our selfs interested in the same sex like me. Have we always known we were bisexual's or we just didn't comfornt it when we were younger because of what others think? Here I am age 32 and really finding men gooding looking and sexual interested in what it would be like to get it on with the same sex. I wounder if we all new that we were bi at some point in time?

[JP1986UM]

It varies with each person. I knew I was bi at 13, but put it away once I got married, thinking "I am over that now".

Problem is, you always are that person and have that SSA inherent to you, you just deny it and put it down until it explodes out. Straight people cannot relate to this. They just cannot. Its like....well, its all about the sex.

Bullshit, if it were about sex only, we'd just fuck a female or male depending on gender opposite. Its more than that.

[welickit]

You will never find the answer to the question. Why do some people like apples, some like oranges and yet others enjoy both? If you are comfortable with what you enjoy, go with it. If someone offers you a pear or a pair another question will pop up. Only you know if it feels right. Good luck!:2cents:

[Donkey_burger]

I've known that I was pansexual for a long time. I remember writing an entry in my journal. The gist of it was "I am straight, and not bi". I had not heard of pansexuality at that time, and of course, was struggling heavily with my sexuality.

However, both who I'm attracted to, and how many people I'm attracted, have changed over time. This is 100% natural, normal, and inexplicable. :2cents:

DB :bipride:

[Cherokee_Mountaincat]

Well, welcome to finding the group, Sweetie. And welcome to finding you. :}
Cat

[roy m cox]

well welcome :bigrin: glad you joined us "big hugs" :grouphug:

[Justin Chad Taylor]

:bipride:It took me a long time to figure out that I am bisexual. Just take one dat at a time and enjoy just being you! Take Care:flag4:

[marc_nola]

I have been bi since 16, in which just the fact of dwelving into those forbidden, naughty, taboo feelings, liking it....made it all the more exciting. During the younger years, up through late 20's it was easy to find others looking to explore life's forbidden passions. 30's, it turned to reality, but still the excitement of being with the same made it erotic. Yes, the older we get, I think we are more settled and sure of who we are, what we want and what we like.

The wife is the center of my life and without her I would have nothing. But those inner, forbidden passions still cause that naughty, taboo feeling.

[sebax]

I can't speak for anybody other than myself. That being said, in my case I always knew deep down since I was like 7 years old or 8.. my first sexual experience was actually with a classmate at the age of 10, we were just experimenting with our bodies , I did not find anything wrong with it... But we knew it wasn't the right thing to do...we played with eachother for months everytime we had lunch break.. when xmas vacation came I didnt see him for a long time and when we got back to school it was as if nothing had happened.. we never did anything again, we were just classamates, we hit puberty he found a girlfriend and so did I.. I moved away and never saw him again until I was 26 yo. I always thought about him and the things we did but that was just good memories of the past because when I ran into him, well lets say it wasnt the say kid I knew and liked to mess with heheehehehehe..
but that was just kid stuff.. I kept my bisexual feelings dormant for a long time until I coulnd resist anymore, so I got online and started to look for poeple like me. the first real real experience with the same sex partner was at the age of 23.. he was 19 6'4 and bootyleciouss.. we hooked up occacianaly until he went away for college and never heard from him.. then I met a girl in college and I didnt think about anyone other than my girlfriend..
bisexual but loyal and faithful to one person... alwaysss... some people have a misconception that being bisexual means to sleep around with anything in your path.. but that just means you are some kind of honry rat...
bisexual means that you like both male and female in a fisical level and/or sentimental..
I am now in my early 30's and single with no guy, no girl and in the closet for different reasonss...
the only advise i give is to not fight it or you will go crazy... all you have to do is admit to yourself that you are bi and try to be as comfortable with it as possible.. remember, you dont have to label yourself anything and you dont have to tell anyone unless you feel is the right thing to do in order for you to feel better...


oh shit it is so f'kin late , I forgot what the question was jajajaajajajajaaj oh well , i hope this helps u...

[12voltman59]

This might be one of those things that cannot be easily explained---I do think it is a natural part of us to have sexual and other desires for both genders no matter our own gender--and I still hold to my view that everyone really does have this inherent aspect to them---its just that those who say they don't--either have not recognized this is the case or they totally deny and supress those feelings, desires, wants, etc. For now---we will have to continue living with the notion that people are either gay or straight and that there is no "in between."

I predict--that if human society continues for at least a few more hundred years----the accepted natural state of our sexuality will be that we are bisexual, pansexual or whatever one cares to call it----and it won't be a big deal---we just need to get our collective heads out of the box that things like religiosity like to place us in and keep us trapped. That day is coming I do believe--- it will be a good thing since people will be free to be what they are in terms of their sexuality so we will be able to do away with the dysfunctional aspects of sexuality that occur when our natural sexual natures are denied and supressed. We still need to have complete and total acceptance of "gay sexuality"-but then again---we need to have total acceptance of sexuality in general since so many forces in our culture would seek to deny us much expression of sexuality at all beyond "the love of one man for one woman in the holy state of matrimony" ----only then can we move past that to the point of total sexual freedom--and when we do get to that state----most of the crazy and unseemly aspects of sex will drop away since we will no longer have so many taboos, restrictions and the like regarding sexuality.

I am convinced that the repression of sexuality is what brings out the negative aspects of sexuality--not sexuality itself--if you really do believe in God and all that it is perfect in its creation by "HIM"--then one really has to be for a more open acceptance of sexuality it seems to me----some say this and I think this is true--when we orgasm with somone else and there is a real connection going with them---then in that instant of ecstasy---we are closest to God or the Creator or whatever one cares to categorize as 'the divine." That ios probably why the early church, being the Holy Catholic and Apostolic Church--was so much against sex--the church leadership knew that this was the case and like in other areas of things spiritual--if they let the average person have access to those things on a regular baisis--the masses would realize they didn't need the princes of THE CHURCH to be their intercessors between man and God. So--like other things--The Church tried to restrict sexuality as much as possible.

I came to this realization regarding the orgasm (I later came across many writings from ancient to modern times that also hold this belief regarding the "sacredness of the orgasm") when I worked probation and why so many of the young ladies we had---kept on having babies when they could not afford to have any more kids in terms of not only financial reasons but emotional ones as well---I had one young woman say to me that the only time she felt alive was when she came with a guy---I was working closely with a therapist for her since this one young woman was a baby making machine and she could sure as heck not afford to have anymore kids----with people of her type--both male and female--it was a hard row to hoe to try to get them to accept the concept of using contraceptives of any kind!!

For those people who live such shitty, bleak lives--the only thing good going on is for them to have an orgasm.

Sorry that I got :offtopic: and got up on my :soapbox:--but I just felt like it--it feels good to be able to do that again here now that the last Troll Storm has passed!!! :bigrin: